The following blog presents another edition of Politely Rude with Abby Johnson. Today’s guest, Katy Faust, is a mom of four, a Pastor’s life, and originally didn’t intend on getting into the public sphere with her beliefs, but when Obama came out in support of Gay marriage back in 2012. She did youth Ministry for 20 years, and some comments that the supporters of gay marriage said outraged her. The more she waded into the marriage issue, the more she realized that all of the issues we study concerning marriage, family, and parenthood, they are hinged on the desires of adults. Therefore, she started an organization called Them Before Us, which focuses on the human rights of children before the desires of adults.
Her message is, “Children deserve the right to be known and loved by the two people who brought them into existence,” as Faus says in this episode of Politely Rude. They talk about adoption. Abby discusses how her five-year-old son asks a lot of questions about his biological father. Her message is that adoption is not just all pretty. “Adoption is complicated. It creates trauma. It brings grief.” She continues that, “The pro-life movement doesn’t want to talk about it. We only talk about the prettyness of adoption.” Of course this is my paraphrase. Faust’s message is, “The real answer to abortion is not anoption. It is parenting.” She says that our missrepresentation of adoption causes kids to think that something is wrong with them when they are questioning about their birth parents. Abby acknowledges, “There will be extreme circumstances where parenthood is not possible, but adoption is not plan A.” Again, of course, this is my paraphrase.
At Them Before Us, their mantra is, “Expect the adults, not the children, to do the hard things,” and of course, I’m paraphrasing again. People think, “Well, if adoption is so great a system, then surrogacy must be good as well, right?” Faust says, “No,” because even this is denying a child the right to be with their biological parents. We must look at infertility like, “No matter how much you long for a child–no matter how much you long to be a mother–that doesn’t justify not giving them the right to life,” again my paraphrase. Faust says, “Seven percent of children made in the laboratory will be born alive. The other 93 percent will die in a freezer, be discarded because they aren’t viable, be aborted because there are too many, they will be donated to research, they will be discarded after thaughing.” She says, “IVF is not a child-friendly process.” She goes on to talk about when people say, “But what if I don’t do any of those things?” Pay close attention. TedEd put out a video describing what happens in natural birth, IVF, and surrogacy, and says that so far, IVF is “safe for women,” but as Faust points out so often in this podcast, it is not what is “safe for the women,” that we need to worry about, but what is “child-friendly,”–what gives them the right to get to live with and see “the ones that brought them into existence.” Faust says that “reproductive technology is a marketplace.” She says, “In adoption, not every adult that wants a child gets one but in reproductive technology, every adult gets one.” She says, “Even though the adults are paying for services, that doesn’t guarantee them a baby. In adoption, the child is the client.” She says that, “the reason why we have all of this vetting in adoption is because we want to make sure that the child is in a safe home,” and of course, I’m paraphrasing again.
The next segment of this podcast will talk about surrogacy. Abby acknowledges that “the rights are surrogats are few. Even if you have some sort of clause that says you won’t abort, a judge could override that.” She says, “It is very unhealthy for the surrogate.” Faust says, “The rights of the surrogats are few; the rights of the child are none.”
She says, “We in the pro-life world have this glossy idea that surrogacy is about babies, but it’s not. Surrogacy is about on demand designer babies shipped worldwide. It is a civil rights violation across the world.” She says, “We have an adoption because a tragic thing has taken place and we help the child through that loss. However, surrogacy makes the child pay.” She says, “Cho need all three mothers.” (Listen to this podcast for more). Faust says, “The social Mom doesn’t have the benefit of all of theingrained inborne biological mechanisms that fuse mother and baby together–the immutable bonding.” She says, “The mother is the only person that we’re connected to by a cord.”
Listen closely to when Abby talks about when she adopted her adoptive son, Jude. I won’t go into that because I want you to listen to the podcast.
The mesiage of this podcast even if you were to forget everything else is, “The adult needs to do the hard work, not the child.” Abby discloses the reason why she started http://www.loveline.com. I encourage you to look at this site and/or if you have a need, call or text their line.
These topics are things that must be talked about as often as we talk about abortion. We need to hear about and talk about this topic from a child’s perspective. The TedEd video shown earlier says essentially, “IVF will outgrow natural birth in the future,” but as Faust says in this podcast, the child doesn’t think about how much the parents love them because of “how much they paid for me.” Faust encourages us to be an expert on this area. She mentioned earlier a documentary put out by The Center For Bioethics And Culture, which I couldn’t find but found out that they also have a YouTube Channel that you can subscribe to here. You can also subscribe and get a cheat sheet at their website.
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